It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.Aristotle
I realized I was not so much a nerd as one who is nerd-adjacent. Then I had my first Doctor Who experience.
Afterwards I discussed the great feminist impact of the VMAs (with the exception of the guy who presented the rock category). And also felt quite ancient about the 90s being “the good old days”.
Finally I talked about everything being the same old song and dance at the Emmys but this time with bonus Sherlock!
Then last night I was asked on the Awesome Friday podcast to discuss the harassment of Anita Sarkeesian & Zoe Quinn. We discussed overall misogyny in nerd culture, Men’s Rights Activists, my views that we are in Fourth Wave Feminism and the importance of men getting involved and holding themselves accountable. You can listen online or get it in the iTunes store.
It is not enough to win a war; it is more important to organize the peace.Aristotle
And the celebratory “We Are Women, Hear Us Roar!” night almost came away without a hitch. Then a man spoke. A man I had to google because I had no idea why he was getting all up on Nina Dobrev. Trey Songz. They were out to present a rock award. Nina’s line was something like “It’s been a great year for rock blah blah blah intro”. And then Trey Songz said “There’s even a lady in the mix.”
THERE’S EVEN A LADY IN THE MIX.
I’m so glad that technology has come far enough so that women can handle electric guitars without it being a risk to our lady parts. Or that we can now stand to be around fast drumming and not be whipped into some sort of unseemly frenzy. Please tell me more about this lady who has managed to defy the odds and risk her delicate sensibilities in the name of rock.
You may be thinking, “well it’s not like he wrote the line… blame the writer!”. For the record I do. But the writer cannot be blamed for when he then moved behind Nina and motioned grabbing her hips and said “And I can always get behind a lady.”
Yeah. That happened.
Nina looked shocked and stepped away before saying “Oh, I don’t think he meant it like that!” ever the polite host. But don’t worry, he clarified that’s exactly how he meant it.
Then I hit pause, had some angry tweets and went to get a drink. Because my delicate constitution was at risk of getting the vapours what with all my years of unladylike rock music listening. Don’t tell anyone but I have been in many a mosh pit. If word were to get out it would bring shame upon my family.
I had some things to say about last night.